Dating a transgender woman
, Maura Pfefferman goes where the character has never gone before: the bedroom.After Pfefferman, played by Emmy-winner Jeffrey Tambor, meets Vickie (Angelica Huston), a breast cancer survivor, at a women’s music festival, the two quickly strike up a romance.I didn’t know any trans women who were in long-term relationships. I knew the moment I told him I was trans, that bubble was going to burst. After we started emailing one day, he looked up my email address and found links to me. I’ve been asked out by lesbians, not just bisexual women.There was always a chance that they would say, ‘Oh, that’s great,’ but incredibly unlikely. He emailed me an hour before our date and said, ‘I just found out what you are. I’ve been with lesbians who have never dated a man and who have never touched a penis.Just half of LGBT singles said they would date someone who is trans.
Their answers are varied and wide-ranging, but they show a great deal in common: Dating cisgender men is a challenge, but cisgender women and other trans people are easier.The interviewees the Beast spoke with are searching for love but also validation—to feel wanted and desired.“So much has changed in just the last five years.It’s a first for the groundbreaking Amazon show, which has depicted the pressures of coming out and dealing with acceptance frankly but has yet to explore the topic of dating while trans.Elsewhere, Maura’s son, Josh (Jay Duplass), develops an attraction to Shea (Trace Lysette), a stripper who challenges his ideas of who transgenderwomen are. A survey from published in May showed that trans people, even as they have made strides in media representation, continue to be discriminated against by potential partners—even by others in the LGBT community.So I like to live in that moment.“There was this one situation where I met a guy on an airplane. But so far in my experience, they’ve all been unfazed.“The first time that a clearly lesbian-identified woman pursued me, it meant the world to me. I had some really good friends I went to college with who were New Yorkers, so I had a really strong support group. I went almost entirely on a three-year span of not dating.
It was one of the most affirming moments of my womanhood—being desired and pursued by a lesbian-identified woman. That’s because the times I did almost date, I was turned down.“There was an friendship I’d developed over a long period time with the brother of a close friend, but he had not known that I was trans.